Exactly Right …
… Since Stacy has turned off the comments on this post here, I will respond on my blog.
Thank you first for posting this article. I am finding it hard to deal with misunderstanding from people I work with about what is fixing to happen in my life in, oh – about 30 days or so.
Fortunately, I will have my DH home for the holidays — this year. Next year will be different.
I have been through this before folks, ask Tre – she knows how nutty I can get and how well I can deal when pushed – but don’t for god’s sake pity me.
Pity from dictionary.com “Sympathy and sorrow aroused by the misfortune or suffering of another. ”
Hello !!! Wake up !!! I don’t feel misfortunate or that I’m suffering at all.
Hell, he’s going to be the one suffering.
No bathroom right next to his bed.
No queen sized, feather downed matteressed, bed.
No home cooked meals.
No backyard to play with Bubba in.
No 600 channels of television programing to choose from.
Not being able to just take the day and sleep, because it’s quiet outside.
No McDonalds, Outback, Wendy’s, Logan, etc to choose from.
No wife to keep him warm at night.
But — then don’t pity him either.
He’s doing something that a lot of people who are pitying us wouldn’t have 1/10th of the backbone my husband does to DO what he does.
Don’t pity me us.
We are doing what we love.
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1Trelaina
wrote on 6 December 2005 at 17:46
I have been here through at least two of em with ya
If you don’t know what to say, sometimes it’s best to say nothing — or at least just throw out the good ol’ “If you need anything let me know, I am here”.
Oh, and “thank your for their service for me” would be nice…
2Karen
wrote on 7 December 2005 at 9:52
Well said, me dear. Best to you and Hubby.
3Stacy
wrote on 8 December 2005 at 6:44
Even as recently as two days ago, when I was out at lunch with two co-workers (who have known me before Seth & I even started dating) kept saying, “Wowwwwww, I have NO IDEA how you are getting through this without losing your mind!”
Thanks for the votes of confidence there, guys.
Sheesh. It’s been 6 1/2 months!
Just because the situation all-around sucks, doesn’t mean you don’t endure and you don’t get through it, right?
4Jo
wrote on 8 December 2005 at 7:54
I think that spouses who are independant to begin with have an easier time of deployment. I know several people that wouldn’t move a town away from there parents, and that’s great — but life has its ups and downs; military families deal with them or they don’t. Easy is great, hard sucks, but it is the hard that makes us stronger.